What does social balance in writing look like and feel like to you? Between the allure of solitary writing, the intimacy of a writing partnership, and the comfort of writing in community, where’s your own personal sweet spot?

To explore these questions and others like them, I invited writers to join me in September 2024 for a free WriteSPACE Special Event on Writing Together and Alone. I guided participants through a sequence of reflective exercises to help them find their own ideal balance between solitary writing and social support, and to discover some research-based strategies for establishing an ideal writing partnership, group, or community. I also offered a sneak peek at my new WriteSPACE Travel Grants, which I’m offering to members of my WriteSPACE community who don’t want to travel this challenging road on their own.

Here’s WriteSPACE Event Manager Amy Lewis’ personal account of this special event:

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I think most of us can relate to a time in our writing lives when we felt socially unbalanced—the lone wolf, tucked away in isolation, writing a dissertation and hardly leaving the cave… the circus performer parent, juggling responsibilities with no time to write alone… or the social butterfly, flitting between too many commitments, struggling to maintain focus.

The challenge is to find a social balance for your writing—a harmony between the solitude that strengthens focus and the social encounters that ignite new ideas. Your unique context plays a role in this balance too. Helen pointed out that writers in the humanities often work in isolation, in contrast to the more collaborative research environment enjoyed by scientific teams.

So how do you know what works best for you? And how can you create a sense of group motivation, camaraderie, and peer support for your writing? These are the questions Helen’s wonderful workshop helped us explore.

We began by reflecting on the concepts of extroversion and introversion. You may be familiar with Christine Miserandino’s ‘spoon theory’. A similar metaphor can help you identify whether you're an introvert, omnivert who is introvert-leaning or extrovert-leaning, or extrovert. The "coin metaphor" illustrates this: an introvert starts the day with ten coins and spends one on every social interaction, while an extrovert starts with none and gains a coin after each interaction.

Achieving social balance in writing means recognizing where you fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum—this is your strength—and then complementing that strength by embracing the opposite. For example, if you’re an introvert, how are you incorporating social interactions to support your writing? If you’re an extrovert, how are you carving out space for solitary reflection on your work?

Helen then guided us through an exercise that asked us to reflect on three forms of pleasurable writing: solitary writing, writing with a friend, and writing in community. Henry David Thoreau wrote in his famous book Walden: "I had three chairs in my house: one for solitude, two for friendship, and three for society." There’s a common misconception that Thoreau was a hermit, indifferent to others, but in fact, he hosted gatherings and was actively engaged with his neighbours and community—he, too, sought social balance.

After this reflective writing, we discussed how to design the ideal writing group tailored to your own ‘Writing BASE’, which addresses the behavioural, artisanal, social, and emotional dimensions of writing. Striking the right balance between solitude and social interaction is essential to a fulfilling writing practice. And your balance will look different from any other writer’s.

I encourage you to watch the full video to engage with Helen’s reflective writing prompts and take the BASE quiz, which can help you identify your strengths in writing practice.

A big thank you to Helen for designing such an insightful workshop. I look forward to seeing you all at the next Special Event!

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Writing is a fundamentally social act. We write to connect with other people, to persuade and delight them, and to understand our relationships with them.

Paradoxically, however, writing is also a fundamentally solitary act. Even for authors who research and publish collaboratively, most writing starts out as words scrawled, tapped, or typed by one person’s fingers or articulated by one person’s voice in response to signals emanating from that one person’s singular brain.

So where does pleasure sit within this social-to-solitary human spectrum? Everywhere! While researching my 2023 book Writing with Pleasure, I asked nearly 500 academic writers from around the world to recall a time in their life when writing gave them pleasure. The writers in my study described joyful experiences of writing with others and writing solo; of writing among others and writing alone; of writing for others and writing just for themselves.

And then there were all the pleasurable places and practices in between. The crowded café where a lone writer sits scribbling at a corner table, drinking “deep, rich, bitter” coffee and patting the occasional passing dog. The dining room of an old farmhouse where three sisters work silently on their homework, eating steamed damsoms as the trams rattle past. The rented beachhouse where four colleagues gather to bash out a book manuscript, alternating between solo writing sprints and intense group discussion. (“We had ourselves, our computers, our editor, and a lot of gummy bears.”)

I also noted an intriguing variation on the social-yet-solitary theme — scenes of writing infused with a shared intimacy that might best be described as plaisir à deux:

Writing at Harry’s writing desk. Light comes in through the windows, the curtains glow red with the setting sun. Harry helps me edit and reshape my work. I know what I am doing and enjoy the collaborative act of seeing the work take shape. I have been researching this article for 6 months and am excited by the ideas I have. I am sitting on a soft antique chair with the man I love. Aesthetically I like looking at Harry, at the books which line the shelves and at the two computer screens so that we can research and write at the same time. I feel comfortable and excited about the work we are producing. New ideas keep emerging. (Jennifer, lecturer in dance, United Kingdom)

In one memorable narrative, writing alone together takes on the flavor of a secret love affair:

I remember writing and getting drunk. Drunk on alcohol, but also inebriated with life and being together with another writer. This was illicit. We met at the head office where we both worked. He was taking stolen time away from his wife and their infant son. I was in a relationship with a man who had moved back to Germany, leaving me alone in Brussels at the office where I had a rather manual job to fulfil. The writing took place in our separate offices. There was no one else around. Just him two offices further up the corridor and me in my shared office. We were both secretly working on novels. He and I never had an amorous relationship, and yet were conjoined during those stolen hours. (Sofia, associate professor of literature, Sweden)

In another, plaisir à deux swells into plaisir à quatre:

It was fifty years ago—almost exactly. I was an exchange student, writing with a cousin of my host family. Jens—the cousin—and I wrote a letter together, addressed to the host family’s daughter—the cousin’s cousin—and her best friend. Boy and boy writing to girl and girl. We laughed. We (almost) cried. Together we decided that, since his cousin was family, the part of this letter—and it was sort of a collective love letter—that he wrote had to be directed to the friend. But actually he liked the actual cousin more, while I had a crush on the cousin’s friend. The hour or so we spent doing this was among the happiest I can recall. Looking back, I am struck by how unmixed and unhesitant and uncomplicated the pleasure of writing was. (David, professor of German, Vermont, USA)

I love how each of these stories reveals multiple layers of intimacy in and around a scene of writing: between lover and lover, colleague and colleague, boy and boy, boy(s) and girl(s), cousin and cousin, writer and writer.

Psychologist Danielle Knafo observes that words like solitude, relationship, intimacy, and connectedness are fluid, dynamic, and contestable: “We connect, disconnect, leave, come back, move in, move out; boundaries are drawn and erased as a relationship expresses the flux of its function and meaning.” (Knafo, Dancing with the Unconscious, 94). Somewhere in that flux, each of us may be fortunate enough to achieve our own state of pleasurable social balance from time to time: between networking and focus, between conversation and introspection, between expansiveness and intimacy, and between the comforts of human contact and the exhilaration of solitude.

[Adapted from Chapter One of Writing with Pleasure, “Society and Solitude”]

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So, what does social balance in writing look like and feel like to you? For more thoughts on the lure of the crowd, the call of the hermit's cave, and the deep pleasures of intimacy, watch the recording of my live Special Event ‘Writing Together and Alone’ (WriteSPACE members can find the recording on their Videos page) or read the summary blog post for some hand-picked insights.

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It’s my birthday today, so I’ve baked a cake!

Okay, so it’s a virtual cake, not a real one. But it still looks pretty delicious, doesn’t it? I started with a dark chocolate base spread with white icing, then added a pile of gleaming red cherries, a wreath of blue macarons, and a golden rose in the center.

Birthday Cake is the latest video in my new Sharing Plates collection, a series of on-demand writing studio sessions that I’ve created exclusively for my WriteSPACE membership community — but because it’s my birthday, I’m sharing this Sharing Plate with the world.

The full 65-minute video includes:

• a playful, generative writing warmup (“Silk Scarf”);

• three short writing sprints (aka pomodori) timed with a strawberry, a blue macaron, and a champagne bucket, respectively; and

• a wordcraft workout on the theme of mixed metaphors (“Mixed Drinks”).

To get the most from this sweet treat, I recommend that you set aside enough time to make your way through the full 65-minute sequence in a single sitting. Afterwards, if I’ve got the recipe right, you’ll feel nourished, inspired, and eager for more.

You can savor this Sharing Plate on your own or in the company of other writers. Either way, I hope that your writing session will feel like a piece of cake!

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I’m irrationally excited to announce a new set of resources that I’ll be adding to my WriteSPACE membership area over the next few months: Sharing Plates. The first video in the series, Caprese Salad, is now available in the WriteSPACE Library, and in celebration of its launch I’m posting a free version here. Enjoy!

So what’s a Sharing Plate? Well, you’re probably already familiar with the “Pomodoro Technique,” a time management method that originated in the late 1980s. Writer Francesco Cirillo used a tomato-shaped kitchen timer (“pomodoro” in Italian) to set short writing sprints for the members of his writing group, who would write together in silence for 25 minutes, take a 5-minute stretching break, and then repeat the process a few more times.

Cirillo’s simple “shut up and write” method (or, as I prefer to call it, “show up and write”) proved useful for many writers, so the technique spread far and wide, along with its unusual name. I like the method so much that I’ve stocked the WriteSPACE Library with no fewer than 37 different pomodoro timer videos, ranging from 5 to 40 minutes long. Each one offers a different timer (not just tomatoes!) that you can use to time your own writing sprints: a purple penguin, a blue macaron, a silver champagne bucket, and many more. These playful pomodori won’t magically transform you into a more stylish or productive writer, but at least they can help bring some pleasure to your writing process.

For years, WriteSPACE members have been asking me to make some longer timer videos — and now, at last, I’ve done it! Weaving together existing videos from my YouTube channel with newly-filmed material, I’ve created a series of self-contained, on-demand writing studio sessions.

Each themed 1- to 2-hour Sharing Plate video consists of a brief introduction, a creative or reflective writing warm-up, a sequence of timed writing sprints with short stretching breaks in between, and a Wordcraft Workout — that is, a writing or editing exercise designed to develop your craft as a writer.

Ideally, I hope that you’ll consume these Sharing Plates in the company of other writers, either virtually or “in real life” — but of course you’re also welcome to savor them on your own. Just set aside an hour or two of focused writing time, choose a Sharing Plate from the WriteSPACE Library (more are coming soon!) and start writing.

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On November 14/15, I engaged in a lively discussion on “Writing and Community" with Max Orsini, co-editor of Student Writing Tutors in their Own Words: Global Voices on Writing Centers and Beyond (Routledge 2022). Unfortunately, Max’s co-editer Loren Kleinman was unable to join our conversation due to illness in her family.

In the first hour of this WriteSPACE Special Event, Max spoke about his academic background and his experience of co-editing the book, a polyvocal celebration of collaborative learning, on-the-job education, and the vital role of university writing centers in empowering both students and tutors to find their own voice. In the second hour, Max prompted us to reflect on our own most memorable experiences of writing in community.

Here is WriteSPACE Event Manager Amy Lewis’ first-person account of the live event:

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This session was a very helpful reminder for all that at any and every stage of your project and career, it’s essential to find a supportive and engaging writing group that suits you and your goals.

A few standout quotes from this session:

• “Good thinking and good writing happen in discussion.”

• “While swimming in the sea of untrained learning, doubt can creep in. We all need barriers, boundaries, and pathways because we can’t always solve every problem on our own.”

• “I’ve learned how to let go of the reins and trust the process more, which has been beneficial for me both as a musician and a writer.”

We began the session with Max discussing how he discovered his passion for student teaching and writing communities. From a background in comparative literature, he became interested in creative writing communities while working as an advisor at his university’s academic writing centre. His book project Student Writing Tutors in their Own Words: Global Voices on Writing Centers and Beyond (Routledge 2022), co-edited with Loren Kleinman, came to fruition from working as a graduate student and English Language Learner writing specialist. The book celebrates 26 different voices from around the world and is divided into three parts:: ‘How We Help’, ‘A Voice of One’s Own’, and ‘How Writing Communities are Made’. Tutors and tutees, mentors and mentees share their experiences on writing with others and the impact that collaboration had on their writing practice.

Max shared his personal experiences as a mentor facilitating meet-up groups for post-graduate academics to help people find their voice and a space to express process writing. More than anything, he wanted to hold the space for them as a place to work through ideas. It was especially interesting to hear Helen and Max’s discussion about process writing and the imposter syndrome felt by many early career academics. Some writers, academic writers in particular, get enculturated to think that their writing is not valuable unless every word is going to get published. So, in this sense, process writing becomes seen as “a waste of time.” Max offered an insightful metaphor to challenge this assumption: the writer as a musician. A musician needs to practice articulating every note again and again before the final performance, the process of preparation is fundamental. In this way, the processes of playing an instrument and “writing to think” are very similar! 

Process writing in a community helps provide resources and feedback to fuel your thinking. Writing communities can also offer pastoral support and are a space where you can alleviate your doubts about writing; chances are that someone else in the group has had a similar experience. It is precisely in this context that the energy and impetus for Max and Loren’s book emerged.

Another useful metaphor from the discussion was the writer as a swimmer. When you ask an academic where they learnt to write, Helen noted, they usually respond with something akin to the mantra ‘sink or swim!’ The untrained writer is either adrift or desperately treading water. In isolation, this is a terrible challenge! Writing communities can be a place to inspire and uplift adrift writers and redirect them towards the fast lane. (See Helen’s Times Higher Education article “Academic Writing: How to Stay Afloat.”)

Max then led us through a reflective freewriting activity to examine the writing communities we have been a part of. We were asked to recall a time when we inhabited a ‘centre of writing’ and had gathered together to explore ideas, create collaboratively, or write alone together. We discussed the different kinds of communities that can exist: for example, process writing groups, virtual writing groups, mentored groups, non-hierarchical groups, and immersive workshops with others, just to name a few. This exercise highlighted the important notion that you may need different kinds of writing groups at different times.

Writing groups, we learned, can focus and improve the quality of your work as well as your positivity towards your own writing. If you missed this stimulating session, why not take the time right not to reflect on the writing communities that you have been a part of? Start by freewriting for 10 minutes or so about the various types of groups you’ve been part of, then spend some time imagining the ideal writing group for your current project.

It was a fascinating session! A hearty thank you to Max and Helen for sharing their experiences and expertise with us all.  

We concluded our session with a collaborative poem:

The cloak of writing

            Across oceans

            Included

            Comfortable togetherness

            Compassion

            Abundance

            Generosity

            Empowerment

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